You Don't Want The Kids Around The New Girlfriend/Boyfriend

You are angry now that your ex (or soon to be ex)  is now with the person they cheated on you with.  Obviously you don't want this person around your children. After all, this person  destroyed your family, your marriage.  Well your ex is to blame too, but that is an issue to be touched on a different day.

So what can you do? Surely the courts will say you can keep them away from this person. The truth is, you CAN'T restrict your children from being around your ex and his/her new relationship.                                                                              

So what can you do legally?

Do what you can to find out about this home wrecker's background. If you can't find anything on your own, call us.  What we look for is former relationships that were volatile, or court ordered restrictions on drinking, or drug convictions.  This can all be shown to the courts and can be put in an order as to what restrictions there are. 

If this person is "clean", you can try to at least have a judge order that when your ex has your kids, he has to be WITH them and not at a bar, etc.  This will at least prevent him/her from leaving the kids at a babysitter, to spend time with the other person, or will make their time together not as cute as it was when they were alone. Therefore the "other" person probably won't even want to be around your kids anymore. 
An attorney would be the best to tell you what direction to go.

Also, feel free to give us a call for suggestions or more ideas as to what we would look for.

This is not to say in relationships, that mutually parted, that the "new" person can't be good for the kids.  I am speaking specifically to those who marriages were broken due to infidelity.  That adds a whole new element to the jilted person's feelings.  

If you have any hopes of saving your marriage, because maybe you are separated and your spouse is trying to "find" themselves, think of it this way...your kids being around your spouse and his new (you insert word here), may show the true colors to your spouse that their new relationship wasn't all it was cracked up to be.  Maybe the new person isn't a kid person and the sight of vomit, or whining will send them for the hills. 

Whatever you do, DO NOT talk down about your ex to your children. That is the worst thing you can do to put them in the middle.  It is still their parent.  Also do not give them the third degree after a visit.  We will touch base on this subject a different day also.  Just remember the kids are the most important through all of this, so try very hard to not speak lowly of your ex to them.  If your ex is that bad, they will learn on their own, as they grow older, and will see you were the bigger person to allow them to have two parents.

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